As a parent, you know those piles of toys begging to be picked up can push your patience to the limit. But consider the following guidelines. They’re the methods we use to train Shamu to clean up his toys. They could work very well for your “messmaker,” too!

Stay positive

Your attitude can make a difference. If you stay positive, there’s a greater chance your child will too, instead of getting mad at your messmaker, try redirecting behavior. By changing focus, you’ll have a better chance at success.

Start small

At first, Shamu learned to bring back one toy. Try that with your kids. A simpler goal is easier to understand and achieve. And, every time a small goal is reached, try reinforcing that behavior with praise or a small reward.

Model behavior

Another way to get the result you’re looking for is to show your child how it’s done. When you demonstrate the behavior you want, it can help your child get a clearer picture of what’s expected.

Provide rewards at each success – and vary them

The goal is to make positive associations with desired behavior. And, if you make sure the reward is a little different each time, you can avoid specific expectations. Whether it’s a big hug, a sweet treat or just spending special time doing something fun together, let your child feel your pride.

Keep it up

Once you’ve got yourself a first-class cleaner, don’t take it for granted. If you keep reinforcing that behavior, there’s a better chance your child will make it a habit.

This approach is a great way to build a positive relationship between you and your child – and your child and good behavior.